Children often assume they will care for their parents when they get older. Many families are currently in this situation, so they know to expect it in the future. However, before assuming the care of a parent or elderly relative, a person must ensure they can take on this task.
The well-being of the caregiver and the elderly relative must be considered. It might be better for this person to get into assisted living. What factors should a person consider when determining whether to take on this role?
Work-Life Balance
Every person needs work-life balance for their physical and emotional health. When people have no time for themselves or their loved ones, they won’t have a satisfying life. People who are already struggling to achieve this balance find that things won’t get any easier when they add the role of caregiver to their plate. They will quickly burn out, which isn’t good for them or the parents.
Potential caregivers should talk with their employer to learn about programs in place for people serving as caregivers so they can get time off when needed. They should also sit down with family members and see where they can take on some tasks to reduce the caregiver’s burden. When everyone works together, it is easier to take on this role. Assisted living is often the better option if no support system is in place.
Level of Care
What level of care does the parent require? Some seniors may be independent but would feel better living with family members. If they become ill or have an accident, they know help would be readily available. Other seniors need assistance with activities of daily living, and family members would need to provide this help. If a parent has dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, they may be able to live with family members initially. As the disease progresses, a move to a memory care community may become necessary for their safety and well-being. The family must determine the level of care needed and who can best provide this care. It might be a family member, or it could be an assisted living or memory care community.
Caregiver’s Health
The caregiver must ensure they are healthy and can care for a loved one. Physical health is one aspect that should be considered, but this individual also needs to consider their emotional and financial health. An unhealthy caregiver can’t provide a senior with the care they need. In addition, a person who is struggling financially may find their money problems worsen when they bring another individual into the household. If a caregiver isn’t physically, emotionally, or financially healthy, they may need to consider other options for their aging parent.
The Parents’ Wishes
Family members must consult with the parents to learn their wishes. Some people might prefer to live alone, while others feel lonely and isolated. If the parent can remain independent, family members should respect this. When they need help, however, the family must step in and find a way to provide this help. They need to do so with input from the senior. Families should never make decisions regarding the care of a loved one without asking for that person’s input. Doing so could lead to conflicts that could easily be avoided.
Children need to understand that assuming the role of caregiver is a big responsibility. It’s not like raising children because their parents have lived independently and have their own minds. A thorough assessment of the situation will allow families to make the right choices regarding care for the seniors in their lives.
